By Mmiliaku Milly
I can’t stop saying this even if some don’t want to believe this or think I’m exaggerating.
The stories I keep hearing are so traumatizing.
I’m scared to my bones.
I fear for our children.
I just saw a horrifying video I wish I can unsee.
I’m so heartbroken.
A baby girl of about 4 years old was giving an adult male blow job!
My God!
Our children are at risk of encountering these beasts at any point and anywhere, even in the home and places of worship!
Not long ago, a friend’s 7 years old daughter was nearly raped in their church rest room.
Thank God the girl screamed so loud immediately the man followed her into the toilet and brought out his penis.
The man ran away when he couldn’t make her to stop screaming, he jumped the fence and disappeared before anyone could catch him.
My friend was so traumatized for weeks.
She couldn’t believe that her baby girl she gave permission to go and pee a few minutes ago nearly got defiled within a twinkle of an eye, in the house of God!
It’s time to wake up parents! It’s high time we stopped pretending we don’t know these things happen as often as we hate to admit.
» Have you taught your children not to allow anyone touch them inappropriately and to recognise when someone is trying to get them to have inappropriate conversations or watch inappropriate contents?
» Have you taught your children not to touch others inappropriately, even if the other person encourages them to?
» Have you encouraged them to talk to you if anyone is harassing or threatening them?
» Have you made them to understand (through words and actions) that you will be there for them and that they can trust you with anything?
» How vigilant and observent are you?
Do you know that nice, generous and friendly uncle, aunt, neighbour, family friend, religious leader, preacher, domestic help or teacher may have ulterior motives and may be grooming his prey (your child) right under your nose?
» Who baths your children?
Do you know what goes on in the bathroom?
I’ve once seen a video here on Facebook where a househelp was giving and receiving ‘head’ (blow job) from a boy of about 5 years old she was bathing.
SMH
» Parents please, we need to be less trusting and pay more attention to those who come close to your kids and those we trust with our kids, even our relatives.
Most of those who molest children are well known by the children and their parents, they are hardly strangers.
They are usually people we know and trust.
A friend once told me how in her primary school days, she was repeatedly fingered by her mother’s colleagues in the office whenever she goes over there after school.
These guys shower her with praises and gifts, they carry her on their laps and when her mum isn’t looking, they slip their slimy crooked finger into her vagina.
Each guy was oblivious of the fact that the other guy does same to her.
She said she started looking forward to it at a point.
All these happened in her mum’s workplace and her mum had no clue!
It continued till she left for boarding school years later.
SMH
» Parents, do you know why your child is suddenly terrified to be left alone with that particular aunt or uncle?
This could be a clue you are ignoring.
Ask questions!
» Do you know why your child is suddenly too fond of that aunt or uncle?
» Do you know why your teenager is suddenly very rude to that particular aunt or uncle?
Ask questions!
» Do you know why your once happy and playful child has become so withdrawn and a shadow of him or herself?
Pay attention, ask questions!
Pay attention parents!
Pay attention!
Pay attention!
The signs are usually there, if only we pay closer attention and talk to our children more often.
If only we listen to our gut feelings.
» Are you among those who think sex education for kids and teenagers is a taboo and will corrupt them?
Please snap out of that ignorant mindset now and go give your children age appropriate sex education.
I know it may seem awkward at first but you have to have that conversation, and very often too.
Children need a constant reminder and follow up teachings for it to stick.
If you don’t teach them the right values, their peers and the wrong person(s) WILL teach them the wrong values.
The earlier you start age appropriate sex education with your children, the easier it gets as they grow older.
Go to Google and search for tips on age appropriate sex education.
» Contrary to the popular opinion that sex education corrupts children, it’s been proven that children who are well informed about sex will know when someone is trying to touch them inappropriately and inform you.
They are less likely to live a reckless sex life in future.
They are less likely to be perverts, rapists and child molesters.
» Many children who were molested didn’t know what was being done to them was bad until they became much older, by then they were already damaged emotionally and psychologically.
» Please parents, we need to sit up, the world is so evil.
We need to do more to protect these innocent children we brought into this world.
Feeding them, clothing them and paying their school fees are not all there is to parenting.
Parenting is serious hard work and we owe it to our children to do our very best.
Let’s stop raising children who have to recover from their terrible childhood experiences.
Lord have mercy!
Written by Mmiliaku Milly