By: Ebube Okeke
Often times, people have certain specifications or standards that they want their partners to have. Although some of these specifications are unrealistic, some others are ideal and helpful.
It is not all about setting standards for your partner to meet: Do you actually meet the standards you are setting? If you want a man with vision and purpose? Ensure that you have vision and purpose, before you would find a person with a like mind.
This days, broke and lazy girls dream of having a rich and hardworking husband. Ladies, put yourself in that man’s shoe, do you think he’ll come for a “broke/lazy” ass like you? Sweetheart, he won’t. He would go for someone who’s hardworking and drives him to be better even by staging q healthy competition with him.
“No man wants a liability, everyone is searching for assets, make yourself one”. Make your own money! If all you have to your name is your clothes and shoes, trust me you are as poor as a church rat. Try to accomplish certain things, gain a little, so you can give to your partner too.
You want a partner who’s generous and caring. Are you? If you are not, your partner would feel like a fool, if he’s the only one buying gifts, calling and texting. This brings me to how I hate the fact that Nigerians expect the man to buy ” Valentine ” gifts.
Hello, it shouldn’t be that way, we should exchange gift on such occasions and sometimes surprise one another with gifts, calls and gestures. Trust me, this would go a long way to save your relationship.
Another point is on the honesty and loyalty aspect. Everyone wants a partner that would always tell them the truth, a partner they can trust and rely on. Now to you; Are you trust worthy?, Are you reliable? How do you plan to be in a relationship with a honest person when you are two faced person. I tell you, you’ll die of guilt.
Knowing that the person is loyal and honest while you are not. If you don’t die of guilt, then you’ll die of shame when the person finds out the kind of person you are.
When I hear certain people say they want God fearing partners I’m amazed. Not like I’m judging, but there’s you who doesn’t have a relationship with God, who doesn’t even go to church or read the Bible yet you claim to be a Christian. I’m a lady so permit me to say this, you think God would direct his son that he loves and adore to you that’s a slay mama who only thinks of who to sleep with to get what you want, Aunty you lie! Until you change your ways and have certain virtues,you won’t attract the person you claim to need.
While setting your standards for an ideal partner, I suggest you build yourself to meet your own standards. So if you have a partner and he doesn’t meet some of your standards you can actually teach him/her and help them be the partner that you want! You should also set standards that are realistic and can actually be met ,you looking for a partner (human being) not some robot you created with features to serve you.