… How to avoid adultery
BY: Ebube Okeke
Adultery is not a norm, adultery is not a must. It is a taboo, it is not acceptable. Please note that you can avoid adultery. It is within your power to do it, if you really mean it.
Carelessness is one of the major cause of affair in marriage not devil in the real sense of it as many people always claim when they fall into the error of committing adultery.
According to marriage and family statistics, 75% of divorce in the world today occurs as a result of adultery. It has become a big issue that needs to be tackled.
So, follow these simple rules to never fall into adultery;
Never make anybody of the opposite sex your best friend with whom you share intimate discussions: This is a tough one as modernization has made people think this is right. But when you are married, your partner should be your best friend; you should have whatever intimate conversations with them. Having a best friend of the opposite sex can be quite tempting and you should flee from it while you can
Never be with anybody of opposite sex at any time that your spouse never knows you are there; This is also linked with the fact that your partner has to be your best friend whom you can tell everything about your movements, appointments, dates etc. Telling them where you are and whom you are with goes a long way in their hearts
Never talk evil about your spouse in the presence of anybody. They will know you are not happy in your marriage and take advantage of that by showing you fake care and give you what you lack with your Spouse and destroy you.
Be proud to use your wedding ring outside. Let them know you are married and proud to be. Not using your wedding ring is an invitation for the opposite sex to come around because they assume you are single and ready to mingle. Aside wearing the ring, you should also say you are married when people try to flirt. You could go as far as waving your hands at their face so they can see your ring!
Never visit a website you will not be proud to tell your children and wife/ husband you visited.
Avoid keeping secrets from your spouse. AFFAIRS thrive in secrecy.
Avoid confiding in the people of the opposite sex. There should be somebody of your sex you can talk to. Don’t dig the grave of your marriage with your mouth.
Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favour from opposite sex. They will ask for sex in return they are not Father Christmas.
Avoid thinking that anybody is better than your husband or wife you don’t know what their spouses are enduring at home. What you are seeing outside is just a show biz so don’t be deceived. Grass is only greener in the other compound because it is far from you.
Divert all your sexual fantasy towards your spouse. He or she is planted into your life to satisfy you and keep you holy.
Always remember that whatever every woman or man has in his or her body, your spouse has it too and they are not different from each other. It is only faces that are different. It is the same package.
Deal with any sexual thoughts that are not directed towards your spouse. Kill them before they kill you. Sexual errors do not begin in the bedroom, they begins in the heart.
If you are finding it difficult to deal with it, find a mature person you can confide in and let the person pray with you and counsel you. Don’t die in silence.
Before traveling, have sex with your spouse and put your mind to it that you will not have sex until you come back. That decision may save your life and destiny
Men, avoid looking at the front and back side of ladies and imagine what is there. It is stupid, childish and dirty to do that. This is called lust. What is there is not different from what your spouse has. Please don’t be stupid sir.
Walk in the company with good and Godly men/women. If you keep company with adulterer you will become adulterous.
Discuss your sexual desire with your spouse and let it be met at home. Don’t hunt for something that will hunt you later and hurt you deeply tomorrow. Your wife/ husband has the best, get it at home.
Fill your heart with the word of God always. This will not give lust a chance in your mind.
Always count the cost of adultery. Don’t just look at the pleasure. Look at the pain, loss of integrity, how you will hurt your wife/husband, children, friends and above all, GOD almighty.
Always remember that the enjoyment, pleasure and the thrills that is in sex is just few minutes or less. It cannot be more than that but its repercussions can last for eternity. Why trading eternity for few minutes, is there wisdom in that?