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At 44 I’m still a Virgin
My name is bamike and I’ve lived quite a peculiar life. I’m 44years old and am still a virgin. I know it sounds odd and almost impossible. Let me tell you a bit about myself.
Growing up for me was harsh, I come from a very poor home, my father is a contractor farmer, he farms other people’s farm for money, we were too poor to afford our own farm, my mother was a nanny and cleaned people’s houses. It was really tough growing up, everything was hard to come by.
My parents couldn’t afford to take care of me so I was sent to live with one of my mothers sisters aunty rose. Aunty rose is my mothers older sister, she was a teacher in a government owned secondary school. Aunty rose is unmarried and lived alone. My mother once told me a man had betrayed her when she was younger, he got her pregnant and abandoned her but she lost the baby during delivery and ever since, aunty rose hated every man.
I wouldn’t say I enjoyed living with aunty rose, she paid for my education and literally brought me up but living under her roof meant I had to live by her rules.
The number one golden rule was ‘stay away from men’.
I attended the same secondary school my aunty taught hence It was a strict regimented six years for me. She taught me to be afraid of men, they only knew how to destroy and ruin ones future. I remember one time I was in ss2, during a free period I was playing with a boy in class, and aunty rose was passing in the corridor and spotted us. When I got home that day, she made me stand under the scorching sun from 2pm to 4pm without any lunch. I learnt one important lesson that day, laughing or playing with boys was a cardinal sin.
‘Do you want him to touch you and ruin your life forever and move on with his like nothing happened? Do you want to be the laughing stock and not have a bright future?’ She screamed at me that day.
I completed my secondary school education without any deep communication whatsoever with the opposite sex. I gained admission into a polytechnic in our state and I went to school from home. Aunty rose kept an eagles eye on me, I didn’t dare have a close male friend.
My first relationship was after my HND and it was the owner of the cyber cafe where I got a job, his name was James. He said he liked me a lot and couldn’t stop thinking about me. I found attention overwhelming, I kept this from aunty rose and nursed my new wonderful secret. One day after work, James asked me to wait behind. When everyone had gone, he came close to me and without warning slipped his hand inside my blouse, cupped my breasts and squeezed it. I was alarmed, such had never happened to me before. He said he wanted to ‘feel’ me, to show me he loved me. I was too stunned to say a word. I immediately got up like one struck by lightning and dashed out of the cafe without saying a word. I never went back. It occurred to me that what aunty rose had told me was true, he didn’t love me he just wanted to ruin me. I resolved not to let that happen to me and so in that manner I’ve lived my life staying clear of men.
In my early thirties, I met another man through a friend of aunty rose, he was looking for a wife. I was happy, finally someone approved of. She however warned me sternly not to sleep with Stanley till he at least paid my bride price. I thought the idea to be a good one, after all we had all our lives to have sex, what’s the rush?
Stanley wasn’t happy when I told him, he grumbled that we were getting married, why was I being childish and archaic. I stood my ground, in some part of my head, this was some sort of test to know if he truly cared about me. He later grudgingly agreed, I was so elated. I was getting married to a nice man who cared about me and not my body. Loving genuinely for the first time, I gave Stanley my all. I would cook and take to his house, wash and clean, I was determined to be the best wife ever to my husband.
I however came home early one day from the market, and rushed to prepare food for my Stanley. Passing my aunties room on my way to kitchen, I heard strange noises. I was baffled. Aunt rose was supposed to be in school by this time. I opened the door without knocking to verify the source of the sound and I saw the most bizarre scene of my life. Aunty rose was in her bed naked with my Stanley!! At first I didn’t understand what I was looking at. Aunty rose? Stanley? How in Gods name? Aunty rose was so ashamed she couldn’t look at me.
I left her house that night to a friends. I couldn’t stop crying, the woman who had raised me and taught me to stay clear of men was just a bloody hypocrite. I couldn’t do anything she was my mothers sister after all. I called things quits with Stanley, to make matters worse he seemed relieved with the decision. In my anger and bitterness, I moved with my friend to Lagos and got a job. I worked hard and channeled all my hate and bitterness to work. Few years down the line, I have money and am successful but I’m tired of hating and shutting men out. I yearn a fulfilling and loving relationship, I don’t know how not to be awkward around men, my social life is static. I’m 44, unmarried and still a virgin.
Digital solutions provider, Globacom, has congratulated Christians in Nigeria on this year’s Easter celebration, and urged them to emulate the noble qualities of Jesus Christ.
The company, in a goodwill message to the Christian faithful in the country, lauded their perseverance through the Lenten period which preceded Easter. It enjoined them to always promote the ideals of selflessness, love and peace among all as a way of demonstrating the virtues of the exemplary life of Jesus Christ.
“Peace, love and sacrifice are the central message of Easter. Christ offered himself in atonement for the sins of the world and he lived a life which made Him an eternal symbol of peace and goodwill for mankind”, Globacom added.
The company enjoined all Nigerians to share in the lessons of promoting selflessness, a necessary ingredient in the growth and development of every society. It also enjoined all Nigerians to join hands to make Nigeria a better place for all.
Easter is celebrated yearly at the end of the Lenten season of fasting and prayer considered as a ritual of purification for the Christian faithful. It also precedes the crucifixion of the Lord Jesus Christ on Good Friday and His eventual resurrection on Easter Sunday.
The company assured its customers of seamless voice, data and Short Messaging Service (SMS) during and after the Easter celebrations, while urging them to avail themselves of the various data and voice offerings on the network.
The Guild of Private Broadcast Managers has extended its heartfelt congratulations to the Nigeria Union of Journalists (NUJ) as it celebrates its 70th Anniversary.
In a congratulatory message signed by the Guild’s National President, Ambassador Patrick Uzoyi-Peters, JP MNGRM, the guild described the milestone as a testament to the NUJ’s unwavering commitment to upholding press freedom, journalistic integrity, and the advancement of democracy in Nigeria.
“For seven decades, the NUJ has played a pivotal role in shaping the media landscape, advocating for the rights and welfare of journalists, and ensuring that the voice of the people remains strong and unyielding. Your resilience, professionalism, and dedication to ethical journalism have been instrumental in fostering transparency, accountability, and national development”.
Celebrating this historic achievement, the Guild’s President, Uzoyi-Peters recognized the sacrifices and contributions of journalists across the nation who work tirelessly to inform, educate, and empower society.
The Guild reiterated it commitment towards collaborating with the NUJ in promoting responsible journalism and strengthening the media industry for the greater good.
While wishing the NUJ continued success, growth, and greater impact in the years ahead, President Uzoyi-Peters prayed that the anniversary serve as a renewed call to uphold the principles of truth, fairness, and press freedom in our collective pursuit of a more informed and just society.
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Family Marks one-year Memorial of Late APC Chieftain, Ojougboh with Charity Outreach
By Ikenna Oluka
The family of the late chieftain of the All Progressives Congress (APC), Chief Dr. Cairo Ojougboh, led by his wife, Mrs. Bose Ojougboh, marked his one-year memorial anniversary with a series of charitable initiatives aimed at honoring his legacy of philanthropy and service to society.
The memorial activities included the donation of school books and bags to pupils of Erigbe Primary School, in Agbor within the Ika South Local Government Area (LGA) of Delta State, where Dr. Ojougboh had received his early education.
The outreach also included extension of financial assistance to patients at Central Hospital, Agbor, and the provision of toiletries, cash, and food items to children at the Salve Regina Children’s Home, Agbor.
The outreach was carried out under the ‘Dr. Cairo Ojougboh Foundation’, a family-led initiative established to immortalise him and continue his lifelong commitment to education, healthcare, and social welfare.
Speaking during the event which took place recently, Mrs. Ojougboh reaffirmed the family’s dedication to sustaining the ideals of the late APC chieftain, describing him as a man who strongly believed in education and giving back to society.
“We are here to celebrate the life of my husband, Late Dr. Cairo Ojougboh, who passed on a year ago. In his honour, we decided to give back to society. He was a man who valued education and was always willing to help others. It is only fitting that we continue his legacy through acts of generosity,” she stated.
Honouring his passion for education
The first visit was to Erigbe Primary School, where Dr. Ojougboh had received his early education. The Foundation distributed school bags, writing materials, and food packs to the pupils. The family encouraged the pupils to take their education seriously and strive to become responsible citizens.
Supporting patients at Central Hospital, Agbor
At Central Hospital, Agbor, Mrs. Ojougboh and her entourage moved through the medical wards, offering financial support to patients to assist with their treatment costs. The hospital staff and beneficiaries responded with prayers and words of gratitude for the kind gesture.
Reaching out to orphaned children
The outreach team also visited Salve Regina Children’s Home in Agbor where they donated cash, food items, and toiletries to the children.
The Matron of the home expressed her deep appreciation to the Ojougboh family, commending their commitment to sustaining the late politician’s legacy of compassion and social impact.
Dr. Cairo Ojougboh’s enduring legacy
Reflecting on her late husband’s contributions to society, Mrs. Ojougboh emphasised that his legacy of generosity and service to humanity would not be forgotten.
“Dr. Cairo was a selfless man who touched many lives. His contributions to the Nigerian political landscape, his mark in Agbor Kingdom, Delta State, and the country at large, will always be remembered. He may be gone, but his impact will continue to be felt for generations,” she said.
The Dr. Cairo Ojougboh Foundation has pledged to continue supporting education, healthcare, and social welfare initiatives in his memory, ensuring that his vision for a better society lives on.
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