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She killed our brother with hot water, family tackles widow

Published

6 years ago

August 27, 2018

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By Punch

The remains of Mr Adeyinka Olusa, a former auditor at the School of Health Technology, Akure, Ondo State, have been in the morgue of the University College Hospital, Ibadan, Oyo State, for about eight months now

It was gathered that the deceased had not been allowed to rest in peace because of the controversy surrounding his death as his relatives and widow are at daggers drawn.

A member of the family and immediate younger sister of the deceased, Modupe Taiwo, who resides in Ibadan, Oyo State, alleged that the 57-year-old suffered domestic violence before his death.

She claimed that a death certificate in her custody showed that although he died from sepsis and bronchopneumonia, the secondary cause stated “extensive superficial burns injuries.”

However, the widow, Toyin Olusa, told PUNCH Metro that the autopsy report read to the family by the police absolved her of culpability, blaming the death of her husband on Taiwo, whom she said took the deceased to UCH, Ibadan, where he died.

The spokesperson for Zone 11 Police Command, DSP Sola Babalola, said to avoid being seen as partial, the police referred the case file to the Directorate of Public Prosecutions for advice.

The deceased’s sister, Taiwo, said she was not aware that her brother was sick and had an operation until a relative hinted her in October 2017.

She said she contacted Toyin on the telephone, who confirmed the information and requested money for his treatment.

“She said my brother was ill and had an operation and that they were in a private hospital. I asked for the nature of the sickness, but she said she did not know it. I told her that I would come to see them, but she said I should not bother because all they needed was just money. She sent an account number and I sent some money. I asked them to take him to a general hospital,” Taiwo said.

She explained that she later visited Adeyinka at the hospital, adding that some of the workers allegedly said the wife had been maltreating him despite his sickness.

She said after she returned to her base in Ibadan, attempts to get updates on the brother’s treatment were frustrated by the wife who allegedly shunned her calls.

Taiwo said she later sent a representative to the hospital, who told her that the victim, who had been discharged due to the wife alleged misbehaviour, was readmitted after he suffered burns.

She alleged that the victim sustained the burns after the wife poured hot water on him at home.

“I was told that while my brother was at home, his wife poured hot water on him, claiming that it was to wake him up after he went into a coma. When I confronted her, she admitted to it. I have her on record.

“He was rushed back to the hospital and the management asked her to sign an undertaking that she would step aside while the treatment lasted.

“I went to the emergency ward and saw that his condition had become critical. I asked that he be transferred to the UCH Ibadan,” she added.

She said she reported the incident to the nearest police station, adding that although Toyin was invited, she did not make a statement.

Taiwo noted that after the victim was stabilised for a few days, he was transferred to the UCH, Ibadan.

“Before we left for the UCH, I asked the wife to bring his clothes and other things, but she refused. I called her telephone number many times, but it rang out.

“By the time we got to Ibadan, he had gone into a coma. I spent a lot of money, hoping that he would survive. He spent a few days at the emergency unit, before he was transferred to a ward.

“Although he could see what was happening around him, he could not talk. When he was told that his wife had come to see him, he shook his head and said he did not want to see her. Unfortunately, he died on December 28, 2017,” she said.

Taiwo said she applied for a “comprehensive autopsy report,” adding that the case at the time was being investigated at the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department, Igbatoro, Akure.

The woman alleged that policemen at the SCIID were compromised and wanted to turn the case against her, adding that her lawyer wrote a petition seeking the transfer of the case to Zone 11, Osogbo.

The petition, dated February 23, 2018, accused the Investigating Police Officer, one Inspector Bayo, of siding with the widow and demanding a N100,000 bribe from Taiwo.

The family lawyer, Babafemi Akenroye, who wrote the petition, alleged that Toyin’s action was based on her discovery of a child that Adeyinka had before their marriage.

“Sir, very recently, it has come to the knowledge of our client that Mrs Toyin Olusa had been assaulting her said husband, late Mr Adeyinka Olusa, for some months before his admission to the hospital based on her recent discovery that he has a 14-year-old daughter, which fact was never disclosed to her by her husband, and that she had sworn openly and severally that it is either she dies or he will die….

“Sir, based on the foregoing, our client honestly believes and reasonably suspects that the death of the late Mr Adeyinka Olusa was caused by the injuries and burns inflicted on him by the hot water poured on him by the said Mrs Toyin Olusa. And that this is in premeditated fulfilment of the aforementioned earlier criminal threats,” the petition read in part.

Taiwo said she later got the death certificate, which allegedly showed that the victim’s death was connected with the hot water the wife allegedly poured on him.

She said although the mortuary bills had been accumulating, she had vowed to get justice for her brother.

“I want justice for my brother and that is why I have not buried the corpse till now. I am comfortable. I don’t care about his property,” she added.

Toyin, in her reaction, said the autopsy report cleared her of any wrongdoing

She said, “We have received the autopsy report at Zone 11, Osogbo. The autopsy reads, “Prostrate enlargement cancer with stones inside bladder.

“Secondly, it said, ‘Mrs Modupe Taiwo exposed her elder brother to lack of adequate care which led to pneumonia; her name was mentioned in the report.

“After that, she was asked to sign that she took a living person from Akure and brought back a dead person and she should ensure that she took him for burial in their village. That is what she is battling with now because she cannot pay the bills.

“Imagine the kind of hardship that a husband’s family make a widow go through. Modupe and her brother were at Zone 11 when we went to listen to the outcome of the autopsy. They had prepared that I would be jailed. But when they heard the report, they were dumbfounded.

“I was with my husband at the state hospital for eight weeks. How can I kill my husband, a man that did not have a job and God used me to bring him into civil service where he rose to become a director before his death? His younger brother, Soji; I assisted him to get a job at the Adekunle Ajasin University.

“The autopsy report has been out for the past two months. I am a level 13 officer in civil service. Why will I kill my husband? I did not kill my husband. They killed their own family member.”

On the hot water allegation, the widow said it was a lie.

The Zone 11 Police Public Relations Officer, Babalola, said the case file had been taken to the DPP.

He said, “We have the autopsy report and we saw that the deceased died from bronchopneumonia; that is an infection of the lungs, which resulted in the damage of his body tissues and organs.

“The doctor’s opinion said there was no feature of strangulation or violation or struggle on the body of the deceased and there was no evidence of dispute between the deceased and his wife. The allegation, for now, cannot be established.

“However, we decided to transfer the case file to the DPP and we are awaiting its advice.”

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How to make your home made body glow scrub

Written by ALICE GINIKA SIMEON

Published

2 years ago

December 11, 2021

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Having a healthy looking skin is a priceless thing to possess for everyone be you a male, or a female.

And scientifically it is required of us to clean our pores so that those dead cells can be removed and a more beautiful skin can be reborn.

Although so many people think that a lot of money has to be spent on actually actualizing that, well it’s not totally true.

Because with the “do it yourself” hacks, that’s the DIY hacks, you can spend just a little money in getting the right ingredients you need to put together what you need for a healthy and beautiful skin instead of giving out a huge sum to purchase one.

So here, I’ll be showing you how to make your own glow scrub from this simple ingredients.

INGREDIENTS

Sea salt (for a less sensitive skin) or Sugar(for sensitive skins)

1 cup is okay.

Essential oil like (almond oil, olive oil, or any essential oil of your choice).

12 drops or enough to saturate your salt or sugar quantity.

Vitamin E

2 to 4 drops.

Any scent supplement of your choice (which is very optional).

Just enough drops to your taste.

METHOD

Note that if you have a very soft and sensitive skin, then you might just have to stick to using sugar instead of the sea salt. And if not, use the sea salt.

Pour your salt or sugar into a clean bowl.
Add the drops of your essential oil and start mixing.
Add your vitamin E and mix
Add your scent supplement and mix

By now it will be in a moist form.

Fill it into an airtight container and keep ready for use.

HOW IT’S USED.

Now before use, make sure to soak or moist your whole body with water, then get the amount of scrub you need into your palm and start scrubbing all over your body. Keep scrubbing till the particles are dissolved and you feel a smoother skin.

Now you can rinse it off and use your soap to finish bathing.

Do this 3 times a week as it is expected to exfoliate atleast thrice a week.

So try this and give your skin a more radiating look at a more affordable and easy way.

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8 Signs to know if he or she is the one for you

Written by ALICE GINIKA SIMEON

Published

2 years ago

November 12, 2021

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When you’re in a relationship, it’s very likely you want to know if he or she is the one.

“The one” here literally means the one you want to settle down with because there might be more than one person who you can like, or who you like, But there has to be just one person for you to settle down with.

So here are some signs to tell you if he or she is that one person for you.

1. Your dreams and goals are in synch:

Okay, your goals and values together might not be 100 percent exactly in sync, but you both share a very good considerable amount of goals together.

It could be your attributes, your ambitions, your personality, and so much more. But you just discover that you and the one are mostly sharing your goals and dreams together.

2. You feel safe and original around them:

When you’re with “the one” they make you feel so safe and original around them as you won’t have to hide your weaknesses when they are there.

You won’t have to be scared of saying or doing things ordinarily for the fear of them criticizing you.

There is just a balance of them letting you be yourself and at the same time helping you be a better version of yourself.

3. Their Imperfections are not enough reasons for you to leave them:

When you’re dating the one persay, you just have that love that compels you to want to see and bring out the best in them.

So their Imperfections are never a deal breaker for you. It could be how they look or behave, but instead of that scaring you away, it pulls you closer to them to help them be better. Same goes for them seeing you the same way.

4. They are always willing to work on the relationship:

Being in a relationship requires more than love. It requires understanding and the willingness to work together even in times of conflict. So when you’re dating the one, it just feels right that you both are always committed to making the relationship work especially in bad times. So that commitment towards it, shows you that you’re with the one unlike situations where some persons easily quit the relationship when things go rough.

5. You’ve faced challenges together and your relationship is still standing strong:

This is one very valuable point as it shows your deep level of love, understanding, and commitment towards each other whether emotionally, financially, physically and otherwise. If you both have faced some challenges together, and you always find a way to overcome it and still stick together, it means you are with “The one” no doubt.

6. You’re always featured in their future:

When you’re with the one, you just notice they are always including you in their plans and everything that’s very important to their lives. This shows how important they see and take you, and also how they really want you to be a part of them. The same goes for you. You just see yourself including them in your plans and future.

7. They talk about you and show you off:

Once you’re with the one, you’ll notice how well they show you off to their family and friends. They don’t keep you a secret as they’ll always want the people close to them to know about you. And they’ll often brag about you. Same goes for how you feel and act towards that one person you really desire.

8. You just feel it deep within:

When you’re with that one person, your guts just tells you so. Deep within everything about them just sits right with you and you feel it that he or she is the one. And truthfully, your instincts rarely mislead you. So you just trust it.

These primary signs tell you that you are with “the one”.

So I hope this article was helpful.

Do enjoy a great relationship life with that one person and thanks for reading.

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How I ended up marrying my father’s wife

Written by ALICE GINIKA SIMEON

Published

2 years ago

November 4, 2021

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A man who goes by the name “John” (real name withheld), has brought himself out to the media to disclose how he got married to his father’s wife.

According to him, he said it all started some years ago when he returned from the city to visit home. His dad who was married to three wives already at that time, was planning to still take in a Fourth wife.

He said he came from a polygamous family in the southern part of Nigeria as his mother is the second wife owing to the fact that his dad is a Chief.

So the life of polygamy wasn’t something rare or abnormal to his people. But to him, he was never cool with it.

In his own words, read his story.

“Coming from a polygamous family was never something to be proud of for me. Infact as a child, I detested my father so much for marrying my mother as a second wife. My whole family as at that time knew how angry being in the family made me feel. But nothing changed.

When I was 18, now my dad was already in his late 50s, the news of him wanting to take in a 3rd wife started spreading. I remember walking to my father angrily and threatening him (lolzz), well nothing changed. It didn’t stop him. He finally took in a very young lady in her 20s.

I was badly hurt with that new addition that I had to leave home. I traveled out to another state entirely to stay with my mum’s family.

I didn’t go home for years because I really wanted nothing to do with my dad and his polygamist personality.

10 years later, my step mum who was my dad’s first wife died so I had to come in for the burial.

Just after a week she was buried, my dad and his people decided it was time to marry another wife, that’s the fourth one now.

I went straight into the meeting of my dad and his elders and clearly gave a warning that my dad shouldn’t think of it because I will not sit still and watch that happen.

Well, I guess they thought I was joking until i did what I did.

Three days after their meeting, a very beautiful and young girl in her mid 20s was brought home to be my father’s wife.

At first, all I wanted to do was cause trouble by chasing her back and upsetting my father and his kinsmen. But when I saw how beautiful, calm and humble the lady was, I had to think of another strategy.

Now before you think I just dived in straight to take her from my father, noooo there was more to that.

By tradition, she was supposed to move into my father’s chambers one month after my step mum’s burial. But she has to be in the household before then to learn certain things from the other wives. So I had to use within that period to plan something different.

I started by confronting her the next day after she came. I got her into an interrogative discussion, and yes I was so rude to her. But after asking her so many questions as to why she would want to succumb to marrying someone old enough to be her dad, I got to find out that she was a very brilliant person with great dreams who was only trying to take care of her family and do their wish by marrying my dad because her family wouldn’t have it another way.

From that day, we got into more conversations, and I started seeing more to her than just a naive girl trying to obey her family.

Well, the truth is, when you keep getting closer to people or knowing them more, there’s every tendency to start liking them. And that was what happened.

I started liking her, well, even though nobody in the family noticed at the time, but I started hanging out with her and we really started going deep with our friendship.

And finally, the both of us fell in love within three weeks she came into our household.

I had to confide in my mum about the recent development, but she wouldn’t hear of it. But that didn’t stop me anyway.

I told myself, if I waited one more week, my beautiful found love will be married to my dad, and no one will back me to stop it.

So I did just one thing, some days to their marriage, after speaking to her with much assurance of a better life with me, The both of us eloped.

I already had money to start a new life, so it was all a little easy.

I dropped a letter behind for my mum and the family, changed my phone number, infact I went on ghost mode after running away with my father’s to be wife.

We started of in another state, we started of a business together, I pushed her to school and we really built ourselves for 5 years. Even though we stayed far and away from both our families as that was the sacrifice we had to pay, but in the end, it was worth it.

Message got to me in that 5th year that my dad was So sick and needed to see me as he might not make it.

I was scared but also desperate to fix things now by seeing him.

I went home finally, and to my surprise, instead of the hostile welcome I was expecting to meet, the whole family welcomed me.

My dad and I spoke about everything that had happened, I apologized and he said he was okay as long as I loved her. He told me how being a polygamist wasn’t his personality but he was not too bold to fight against tradition like I could.

Before my dad passed, I brought her home immediately and both her family and mine united together to get us married properly.

Today, we are doing incredibly okay with our lives and our kids.

And that was the end of forceful polygamy struggle in my family. It is now a matter of choice and not a force for who doesn’t want it.

So, this is the story of how I ended up marrying my father’s wife (almost to be wife anyway).