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[OPINION] How I Overcame Premature Ejaculation Without Drugs

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I felt so disappointed each time it happened. My wife was very understanding, but the thinly-veiled pain she felt each time left me deflated emotionally.

My ego was in the mud. I needed to do something fast.

In the office I confided in an older colleague. For the sake of privacy let’s call him Mr Oz. He smiled and told me he’d give me a pill that would solve my problem.

When he placed the pill in my palm he told me take it like an hour before having sex with my wife. I got home, popped the pill and waited for my wife to finish cooking so I’d eat and we’d do selima nkuli.

As I waited for my wife, I noticed I began to experience a headache that kept rising in intensity. My head pounded quite heavily. When my wife was ready for us to hit the sheets, my penis was shrivelled like a centenarian’s vein. The headache refused to abate and I didn’t perform wonders.

Back at the office the next day, I told Mr Oz what happened. He brought out the pills and a look at one he told me perhaps the milligrams he gave me wasn’t good for me. He advised that I should go for a lower one. At that point I was already aghast. I told him not to bother.

I got home that night and confessed to my wife everything that happened the night before. She was terrified and angry at the same time, but she saw through my struggles and promised she’d help me beat it. Her promise was solemn and factual.

What did I do and what happened?

  1. I felt safe and reassured because my wife prodived an emotional space for me. She didn’t curse me out or ram my ego into the mud.

To beat premature ejaculation, your partner’s disposition must be such that supports your decision on the journey to beat it. If your partner constantly slams you after each episode of failure, your anxiety levels will be so high that you can’t perform.

If your wife constantly berates you with her words each time your attempt fails, you may see sex as fearful. That can never help your situation.

The spousal support must be established. Both of you must have frank conversations about this if you’re to solve the problem.

  1. I began to study tantric sex. Growing up, lots of us learnt about sex from porn movies and what our fellow teenagers told us. For many guys, the end goal is just to ejaculate – a whambam approach that is selfish most times.

Tantric sex is a slow, meditative form of sex where the end goal is not orgasm but enjoying the sexual journey and sensations of the body. It aims to move sexual energy throughout the body for healing, transformation, and enlightenment.

You can light scented candles in the room and play slow sensual music while both of you are enjoying yourselves.

This form of sex makes you focus on pleasuring your partner. It removes selfishness and that can aid with anxiety. Some forms of tantric sex can last up to 3 hours. That way you’re relaxed and can enjoy sex.

  1. I began to change diet. Doctors will tell you that refined sugars aren’t good for your sexual health. Nutritionists will tell you so. Note the word – refined sugar.

Refined foods, alcohol, and junks food contains refined sugars that aren’t good for your penile performances. Abolish them.

Instead, begin to go for natural sugars in fruits that are also act as aphrodisiacs. Natural aphrodisiacs are artichokes, asparagus, figs, oysters, strawberries, watermelon, tigernuts. Get the ones you can get and begin to consume. Watermelon is the easiest one can lay his hands on.

  1. Reduce your stress levels. Stress is a very powerful element that causes premature ejaculation. Mine was part of it. Sadly, many men are so under stress due to economic demands. They work lmlong hours and return home late. Men who live in Lagos that leave home at 4 AM and return at 10 PM are consistently under stress. Consequently, their sexual performances are weakened by stress.

Whichever way you can, reduce your stress levels. Rest adequately. Sleep adequately.

  1. Exercise. Though I didn’t do much of this back then, but health experts have established that exercise helps men sexually. It could be moderate to high strength exercises in the gym.

They say that regular exercise can boost your libido, improve your sex life, and reduce the chances of experiencing pain during sex. Strength exercises can increase your testosterone levels, but squats can also increase blood flow to the pelvic region,

  1. Allow your woman to be on top during sex. I know some men feel this is emasculatory, but when your woman is on top, she controls the game and allows you relax more. She does the thrusting and enjoys herself while controlling the rhythms. With her on top and communicating with you, she can easily pull away when you’re close to ejaculation, hindering it, and getting back on top when the pressure ebbs.

You also try out styles that don’t let you ejaculate easily. I can thump for minutes from the back and never ejaculate.

For me, I hardly ejaculate via doggy style, but missionary and with thumbs on my nipples, I’m in heaven. So, explore. Explore and explore.

  1. Be patient. It takes time for natural reversals to happen. It may be frustrating at first, but it happens. Be patient.
  2. Go check your vitals. Experts say diabetes and high blood pressure can affect sexual performances. So, go get your vitals checked. Check your blood sugar and blood pressure and if things are out of shape, you begin the journey of reshaping things.

I wish you well.

Emeka Nobis

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FP2030 Report Links Family Planning & Gender Equality

…The 2023 data report reveals that more women and girls than ever have access to family planning

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FP2030 has launched its 2023 measurement report, Meeting the Moment: Family Planning and Gender Equality.

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The 2023 report shows significant achievements in family planning across the globe, even in the face of stagnant funding.

Speaking during the launch of the 2023 annual measurement report in Washington DC, Dr. Samukeliso Dube, FP2030 executive director, said:

“In this report, you will hear more success stories: more people than ever before are using voluntary, rights-based contraception. You will also learn more about the opportunities ahead.”

The links between family planning and gender equality are the central theme of this year’s measurement report.

The data set covers 85 countries, including for the first time Botswana and Namibia, two middle-income countries that have now made commitments to FP2030, and Jordan, which has moved into the lower-middle income category.

The report showed that in the 85 countries reviewed there are over 1 billion women of reproductive age; an estimated 377 million of those women are using a modern method of contraception, 92 million more than were using a method in 2012. 

“This year’s report comes at a critical time in our movement. We are at the intersection of several crises: globally, 800 women are dying every day in childbirth. 218 million women in the global south countries have an unmet need for modern contraception – meaning they want to avoid a pregnancy but are not using a modern method,” added Dr. Dube.

The movement for rights-based family planning is an integral part of the global push for gender equality.

Gender is at the root of every person’s ability to make and carry out decisions about sex, contraception, and sexual and reproductive health.

As the global push for gender equality gains strength, FP2030 affirms the central importance of rights-based, gender-transformative family planning. 

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Dr Sheila Macharia

The report is the first to fully reflect the impact of FP2030’s move to decentralize from one secretariat in Washington DC, to five regional hubs in Nairobi, Kenya; Abuja, Nigeria; Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia; and Panama City, Panama; to ensure that the partnership is driven by regional priorities.

The report contains demographic updates from each region, as well as a special focus on postpartum family planning, a topic chosen by the Regional Hubs, as a high impact practice with demonstrated ability to improve maternal and newborn health outcomes and increase uptake of contraception.

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Cybercriminals Successfully Encrypted Data in Ransomware Attacks on Nearly 75% of Healthcare Organizations, Sophos Survey

Only 24% of Healthcare Organizations Were Able to Disrupt a Ransomware Attack Before Attackers Encrypted Their Data. This is the Lowest Rate of Disruption in 3 Years, reports SANDRA ANI

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Chester Wisniewski, director, field CTO, Sophos

Sophos, a global leader in innovating and delivering cybersecurity as a service, today shared its sector survey report, “The State of Ransomware in Healthcare 2023,” which revealed that, among those organizations surveyed, cybercriminals successfully encrypted data in nearly 75% of ransomware attacks.

 This is the highest rate of encryption in the past three years and a significant increase from the 61% of healthcare organizations that reported having their data encrypted last year.

In addition, only 24% of healthcare organizations were able to disrupt a ransomware attack before the attackers encrypted their data—down from 34% in 2022; this is the lowest rate of disruption reported by the sector over the past three years.

“To me, the percentage of organizations that successfully stop an attack before encryption is a strong indicator of security maturity. For the healthcare sector, however, this number is quite low—only 24%. What’s more, this number is declining, which suggests the sector is actively losing ground against cyberattackers and is increasingly unable to detect and stop an attack in progress.

“Part of the problem is that ransomware attacks continue to grow in sophistication, and the attackers are speeding up their attack timelines. In the latest Active Adversary Report for Tech Leaders, we found that the median time from the start of a ransomware attack to detection was only five days. We also found that 90% of ransomware attacks took place after regular business hours. The ransomware threat has simply become too complex for most companies to go at it alone. All organizations, especially those in healthcare, need to modernize their defensive approach to cybercrime, moving from being solely preventative to actively monitoring and investigating alerts 24/7 and securing outside help in the form of services like managed detection and response (MDR),” said Chester Wisniewski, director, field CTO, Sophos.

Healthcare Organizations Were Able to Disrupt a Ransomware Attack
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Additional key findings from the report include:

  • In 37% of ransomware attacks where data was successfully encrypted, data was also stolen, suggesting a rise in the “double dip” method
  • Healthcare organizations are now taking longer to recover, with 47% recovering in a week, compared to 54% last year
  • The overall number of ransomware attacks against healthcare organizations surveyed declined from 66% in 2022 to 60% this year
  • Compromised credentials were the number one root cause of ransomware attacks against healthcare organizations, followed by exploits
  • The number of healthcare organizations surveyed that paid ransom payments declined from 61% last year to 42% this year. This is lower than the cross-sector average of 46%

“In 2016, the Red Cross Hospital of Córdoba in Spain suffered a ransomware attack that reached servers and encrypted hundreds of files, medical records and other important patient information. It was a major disruption to our operations and interfered with our ability to care for our patients. The stakes are high in ransomware attacks against healthcare organizations—and attackers know that—meaning we’ll always be a target. After this ransomware attack, we worked hard with Tekpyme to bolster our defenses, and now we have reduced our incident response time by 80%. I think the industry as a whole is making improvements, but there is still work to do, because of the constantly changing nature of cybercrime. Hopefully healthcare organizations can leverage the help that is available from security vendors such as Sophos to prevent a very real ‘threat to life’ if systems go offline due to a ransomware attack,” said José Antonio Alcaraz Pérez, head of information systems and communications at Cruz Red Andalusia in Spain.

“Cyberspace today is ripe with technically sophisticated actors looking for vulnerabilities to exploit. What all this translates to is a multidimensional cyberthreat of actors who have the tools to paralyze entire hospitals. Partnering with the private sector is critical to our mission. The information [they] share has real-world impacts and can save real businesses and real lives,” said Christopher Wray, FBI Director.

Sophos recommends the following best practices to help defend against ransomware and other cyberattacks:

  • Strengthen defensive shields with:
    • Security tools that defend against the most common attack vectors, including endpoint protection with strong anti-ransomware and anti-exploit capabilities
    • Adaptive technologies that respond automatically to attacks, disrupting adversaries and buying defenders time to respond
  • Optimize attack preparation, including regularly backing up, practicing recovering data from backups and maintaining an up-to-date incident response plan
  • Maintain security hygiene, including timely patching and regularly reviewing security tool configurations

To learn more about the State of Ransomware in Healthcare 2023, download the full report from Sophos.com.

*The State of Ransomware 2023 survey polled 3,000 IT/cybersecurity leaders in organizations with between 100 and 5,000 employees, including 233 from the healthcare sector, across 14 countries in the Americas, EMEA and Asia Pacific.

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LUTH Doctor Slumps And Dies After 72hrs Call In The Neurosurgery Unit

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Outrage As LUTH Doctor Dies After 72-hour Non-stop Shift

Tweeps have taken to X to share their thoughts on the death of a young doctor, identified as Dr. Umoh Michael, who died on Sunday after allegedly working 72 hours straight.

According to reports, Michael died during a church service at the United Evangelical Church on September 17. He was said to have worked a 72-hour non-stop shift at the Lagos University Teaching Hospital, Idi-Araba, where he was a resident doctor.

Doctors under the aegis of the Association of Resident Doctors, LUTH chapter, in a letter addressed to the Chief Medical Director, LUTH, Prof. Wasiu Lanre Adeyemo, attested to the fact that the young doctor was overworked.

They claimed Michael returned home at about 3:00 a.m. Sunday after a 72-hour shift in the hospital, adding that he had barely slept in their apartment before that day.

The statement partly read, “We the house officers are in deep grief over the loss of our colleague, a co-house officer (Dr Umoh Michael) who died on 17th September, 2023, after having a 72hrs call in the Neurosurgery Unit.

“He is said to have been on call 72hrs before arriving home on Sunday morning to get set for church service, reaching his worship center (United Evangelical Church) where he slumped in the church at about 11 am.”

“His roommate attested to the fact that Umoh Michael had barely slept in their apartment over the past one week as he was always on call or the day he returned home was around 3 a.m. after surgeries and other activities in the Neurosurgery Unit.”

Reacting to the sad incident, LUTH’s Public Relations Officer, Omolola Fakeye, who spoke on an online platform (not PUNCH) Online said, “It is not true that anybody worked for 72 hours. I have not been briefed about his death.

“We were at a programme yesterday (Monday), but I will find out; I can’t say anything now. I will check the medical report of what could have happened because anybody can say anything, but the medical report will show us what happened.”

May his soul rest in peace.

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