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“My Father Told Me My Wife Is A Special Being And She Has Spirits Guarding Her Jealousy” – Man Recounts Ordeal Between Himself, His Wife and His Family

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“I got married to my wife 4 years ago and somehow my siblings didn’t like my wife. I am the 3rd son and the first to get married in our family. My wife is very calm and collected which is why I fell head over heels for her.

After our marriage, my wife got pregnant and just 3 months into pregnancy, I got my Visa to travel to Germany. Two of my sisters suggested to live in my house with my wife but my wife refused saying she prefers to stay with her siblings.

I didn’t object to it because I don’t want any issue to arise between her and my siblings because I know how annoying my sisters can be. However my mom convinced me to let my sisters stay with my wife instead so they can be sure she’s being faithful to me and all that.

I told my wife and she wasn’t happy about that but I made her understand that my decision is final. I traveled and in less than 3 months, my siblings started bombarding me with reports about my wife. It became so much as I kept confronting my wife about their complaints and my wife wasn’t having it.

She told me I was being insecure and my sisters are trying to destroy our marriage but I allowed my emotions and ego get ahead of me. I stopped sending her money, I would send to my mom and she will collect from my mom when she needs money.

I didn’t know what happened but I allowed my mom and siblings manipulate me to the extent that my wife had a stillbirth and they accused her of kil.li.ng her own child and I believed them. I stopped talking to my wife for months, blamed her for loosing our child and never consoled her.

My wife kept pleading with me through chats, calls etc. I was really hurt that we lost our baby but I gave in after 4 months. I and my wife started talking again and I came back to Nigeria a year later when my papers expired.

I met my wife in the same cool headed, calm, peaceful and respectful manner as I’ve known her. I tried applying for visa and kept getting rejected, the little money I made vanished in a twinkle of an eye.

My wife was working and she was assisting financially without complains. At some point, I started feeling inferior to her. My mom and siblings stopped calling to check on me because the money was no longer there.

I whole life was crumbling before me, my wife suggested that I look for a job but I didn’t buy the idea. I saw it as complete mockery and before I knew it, a year passed and I was as good as nothing.

I finally decided to look for a job but still wasn’t lucky to get any after so many trials. I kept wondering what was wrong with me and one night I had a dream where my late dad visited me and I was complaining my ordeal to him.

He told me that my wife is a special being and has spirits guarding her jealousy. He recalled that things got better for me after I met her and got worse when I started treating her badly.

He told me to get gifts and apologize to my wife because she’s grieving inside of her and as long as she isn’t happy with me, things would continue to go South. Hmmmm, I woke up from that dream and it was as if scales fell off my eyes.

I laid on my bed for hours evaluating what actually went wrong between me and my wife. I found out it was just my INSECURITIES because I have friends who always told me that women whose husbands are abroad are majorly known for being loose.

My mom and siblings worsened the whole suspicions with their reports just because they do not like her for no reason and my wife is someone that doesn’t talk much. She’s always silent and doesn’t even bother to defend herself. She is too calm and peaceful to a fault.

I was so ashamed of myself, I clearly wasn’t
matured enough for marriage. I felt so terrible for not being there for my wife when she lost our baby. I didn’t even have money to buy her apology gifts, I just went to her and apologized sincerely.

She accepted my apology and I was intentional about awakening our bond again. She got pregnant again and I got a job even though the pay wasn’t much. My wife suggested I apply for visa again and helped me borrow a loan from her bank.

I applied and got lucky this time, I warned my sisters to stay away from my wife this time and should never call me to report anything about my wife because it’s clear the devil wants to use them to scatter my happy home.

I arrived Portugal safely and things are moving well than the previous time. My wife is almost due for delivery and I’m earnestly praying that it ends well this time. I have absolute peace now and I won’t trade it for anything.”

— The Humans of ABUJA 🖊️

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Shocking departure of Rafatu Salami: Thunderbolt on journalism

By Dimeji Kayode-Adedeji

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Late Rafatu Salami
Late Rafatu Salami

I still find it difficult to believe sudden demise of Rafatu Salami.  I first came in physical contact with her when I joined International Press Institute (IPI), Nigeria. Before then, we had never met, but only knew our names while practicing journalism

That our maiden meeting was at the 3-day conference of International Press Conference (IPI), in October 2024, held in Government Reservation Area (GRA), Ikeja axis of Lagos State and I can attest to the proactive nature of Rafat, which I admired, as she was up and doing to ensure a successful outing. That skills coupled with her accommodating nature made us to be professionally close

In similar vein, our second encounter was during a training organized for senior journalists in Nigeria by the Nestle Nigeria Plc held between September 11 to 13, 2024. Interestingly, myself and Rafat represented International Press Institute (IPI) and this also provided opportunity for two of us to be more united in journalism.

I recalled vividly that she exhibited her cerebral skills at the training session with robust contributions, and also added glamour to the programme, with her no dull moment nature, which also caught attention of all participants.

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Penpushers

I can attest to the accommodating nature of Rafat, and it will be difficult for all other participants that we knew each other less than two years, because her accommodating nature was superb. She always relates with me as if we have known each other for decades.

The known outspoken and vibrant late female journalist is somebody I cherished because of her humility, proactive nature and hardwork among other qualities, particularly in the media industry. She doesn’t believe in failure, but always optimistic that there should be positive results for whatever project she shows interest

In October 25, 2024 she sent me a message about a proposed conference being organized by an establishment to take place in Abeokuta, and asked me to help secure venue and attend to other logistics, which I swiftly responded to, as a way to also appreciate her, because if you handover an assignment to her, Rafatu would also ensure that she provide good results

In the course of our discussions, I even encouraged her to come and join Nigerian Guild of Editors (NGE), which I am also a member, because of her competence in the media, and in response she said she would join when she attain the position of Deputy Director in her office, explaining that she was still an Assistant Director.

Late Rafatu Salami
Rafatu Salami

She expressed optimism that she would soon get her promotion which will pave way for her to join the Guild.

However, on November 3, 2024 when I didn’t hear from her about the proposed conference, I was curious to know cause of delay, but sent me a message that she had been experiencing excruciating pain on her legs and could not walk or sit, but making attempt to walk round her room.

I felt for her, and had to recommend a pain relief lotion which I sent the image to her so she can buy and start applying on the legs, I was thinking it was just a minor pain at that time. She appreciated my concern, and replied me she would source for it.

Below is first round of our WhatsApp contact chat

[09/12, 11:00 pm] Ijesakinsman: Uv done ur conference in Abeokuta?

[09/12, 11:01 pm] Rafatu IPI: No. I’ve been incapacitated for 8 weeks now

[09/12, 11:02 pm] Ijesakinsman: What went wrong

[09/12, 11:02 pm] Rafatu IPI: Had excruciating pain on my right leg, could not walk or sit

[09/12, 11:03 pm] Rafatu IPI: But I have begun walking around my room now

[09/12, 11:03 pm] Rafatu IPI: At least I go to toilet without support

[09/12, 11:05 pm] Ijesakinsman: God perfect ur healing

[09/12, 11:05 pm] Rafatu IPI: Amen

But I became shock on December 12, 2024 when I her saw on wheel chair during the conference of International Press Institute (IPI) held in Abuja. Honestly, I was dazed with that picture posted on the Institute membership platform.

I could not resist to keep mute over the development and had to send text to her later in the evening of the event, telling her that I never, knew the medical situation was so heartbreaking, and in response said she cried for hours before she could accept to use the wheel chair to attend the event

This worrisome development motivated me for regular and daily contact with her both on chat and video calls, to know how she’s fairing everyday. This our regular conversation was between December 9 to 17, 2024, as produced below, not until early morning of Friday, just about 48 hours of our chat and video discussions with her, I got the sad news.

Yet I still didn’t believe, because I still spoke with her few days. My curiosity made me to put a call across to her phone at about 7am, that was when it dawned on me, when receiver of the phone call who identified himself as a brother-in-law confirmed the bad news which shattered the day for me and the journalism family.

One thing that is clear is that we cannot query God, who knows everything. Rafat has done her bit, came and gone, but her good work, particularly in the media industry will forever remain a reference point in the nobble profession. No doubt, her sudden exit will be felt in the journalism world, which was her love profession. God rest her soul.

Late Rafatu Salami
Rafatu Salami at IPI Nigeria

As I earlier stated above, second version of our conversation between December 9 till Tuesday December 17 before her final exit from this sinful world is produced below

[12/12, 1:32 pm] Ijesakinsman: I never knew is that serious that ur on wheel chair

[12/12, 1:35 pm] Rafatu IPI: Yeah

[12/12, 10:23 pm] Ijesakinsman: God will perfect the healing

[12/12, 10:50 pm] Rafatu IPI: Amen

[12/12, 11:02 pm] Ijesakinsman: Honestly, I was shocked when I saw it.

[12/12, 11:03 pm] Rafatu IPI: I cried for a whole day before agreeing to use it

[12/12, 11:06 pm] Ijesakinsman: U don’t need to cry, just be optimistic. I can understand cos I know how proactive ur, and to be confine on wheel chair can be difficult experience. I know God will heal you

[14/12, 11:53 pm] Rafatu IPI: Getting better by the day

[14/12, 11:54 pm] Ijesakinsman: I already have you in my prayer point

[14/12, 11:54 pm] Rafatu IPI: Amen and amen

[14/12, 11:56 pm] Ijesakinsman: Honestly, I was shocked when I saw that ur pix at conference. But am optimistic that you will get over it

[14/12, 11:56 pm] Rafatu IPI: By the special grace of God, the worst is already behind us

[14/12, 11:57 pm] Ijesakinsman: God grace

[15/12, 7:20 pm] Ijesakinsman: God grace and very soon you will rise up to your feet and be more agile and proactive

[15/12, 7:30 pm] Rafatu IPI: Amen and amen

[16/12, 11:49 pm] Ijesakinsman: How are u fairing now

[16/12, 11:49 pm] Rafatu IPI: Much better. Thank you sir

[16/12, 11:50 pm] Ijesakinsman: You will walk on ur own

[17/12, 1:11 am] Rafatu IPI: Amen

Dimeji Kayode-Adedeji is founder Penpushing Media and member International Press Institute(IPI). He wrote this piece from Abeokuta, Ogun State, Headquarters of the Penpushing Media

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FG Pledges Enhanced Security for Southeast Region

… Adequate security is vital for business prosperity – Badaru

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Honourable Minister of Defence, H.E. Mohammed Badaru Abubakar
Honourable Minister of Defence, H.E. Mohammed Badaru Abubakar meets with the Miliary and Governor Uzodimma in Imo State

The Honourable Minister of Defence, H.E. Mohammed Badaru Abubakar, has assured the people of the South-East of enhanced security measures, emphasizing that a secure environment is crucial for business growth and prosperity.

During his operational visit to  Enugu in the South-East, the Minister addressed officers and personnel of the 82 Division/Joint task force south  East Operation Udo ka  under the General officer commanding, Major-General H.T Dada .He appreciated their performance  while urging them to intensify their efforts in combating insecurity in the region. He also engaged with key stakeholders, including heads of security agencies, traditional rulers, students, and other community leaders, to discuss collaborative strategies for addressing the current security challenges. Other military platforms visited by the Minister included the Nigerian Airforce base Emene,  Enugu.

“President Tinubu has directed me to engage with you all to find sustainable solutions to insecurity. Without security, there can be no peace or development,” Badaru stated. He acknowledged the entrepreneurial spirit of the South-East populace, asserting that security and peace are essential for businesses to thrive. “We seek your candid suggestions and information on how we can practically enhance security and foster lasting peace in this region,” he added.

The Minister reaffirmed President Bola Tinubu’s commitment to eradicating all forms of insecurity in the South-East . He elucidated on the progress made by the Tinubu administration over the past year in combating insecurity across the nation, particularly in these region.

“There is a renewed determination to intensify our efforts against all forms of insecurity under President Tinubu’s leadership,” he declared.

In his remarks, Major General Hassan Dada, General Officer Commanding (GOC) 82 Division/ JointTask south East Operation Udo ka, announced that the Army is implementing robust strategies to ensure a safe and secure environment for the upcoming festive season. “Through the Joint Security Task Force in the South-East, code-named ‘Operation UDO KA’, we aim to create a secure atmosphere that facilitates the usual mass return for Christmas,” he stated.

Additionally, retired Major General John Nwoga emphasized the role of social media in exacerbating insecurity, noting that the circulation of old videos depicting criminal activities contributes to fear and panic within communities. “It is imperative for our people to collectively address the negative impact of misleading information and fake news proliferated through social media,” Nwoga urged.

Furthermore,  the Minister visited  Imo State in continuation of his operational tour of southEast  on Friday 22nd November 2024. He addressed the troops at the FOB  okigwe,  211 Quick Response Group,  Nigerian Airforce owerri and Naval Base Oguta in Imo State. He expressed President Bola Ahmed Tinubu GCFR message to them and that they should improve on their successes.

The Honourable Minister also paid a courtesy visit to Governor Hope Uzodimma of imo state to extend his gratitude  to the Governor for all his support to the 82 Division of the  Nigerian Army/ Joint Task force south East,  Operation udo ka. “All the officers and men appreciates you.”

The Ministry of Defence remains committed to fostering a secure and peaceful environment conducive to business and community development in the South-East. We are determined to end insecurity in Nigeria.

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Rented Crowed, APC AKIDA Leader with Zamfara State Govt. Buses Embark on Campaign of Calumny at DSS Office

Godiya Hamza, a Media Analyst, writes from Abuja

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The orchestrated campaign of calumny against the Honourable Minister of State for Defence H.E Dr Bello Muhammad Matawalle MON by a group of street orchins recruited by the leader of APC AKIDA Tijjani Ramallan is very  preposterous and indecent.

This is politics too far, Ramadan has been attacking President Bola Ahmed Tinubu GCFR right from campaign days. He never supported or participated in APC activities, he has been jealous of Matawalle loyalty to our President.

Tijjani Ramallan has been sponsoring Banditry and romancing with criminals.

The leader of the APC AKIDA  Tijjani Ramallan is being sponsored by the state government to attack the person of Dr Matawalle. It is expected that by now the DSS should have arrested him . He has found himself as a willing tool to be manipulated by Governor Dauda Lawal in attacking Dr Matawalle.

The earlier smear campaign embarked by zamfara state government which was stopped by a court order has forced them to shift to the use of APC AKIDA to carry out their mischief.

What zamfara people need is good governance and not wasting the state resources in trying to pull Matawalle down.

Pull him down syndrome pays no body.

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