Romance
Why I divorced my husband and married my gateman
Article by Alice Ginika Simeon
Wonders indeed never seize to end. Atleast that’s what a lot of people think in situations like this.
But I think you should hold your peace till you read the story about this woman who divorced her husband to marry her gateman.
Roseline is a 34 year old woman who got married to her husband at the age of 26. She said they were a very happy couple until lots of things started happening in their family.
According to her, she said her and her husband who was a serious business man agreed not to have children for 3 years first as her husband wanted to focus more on building his company to a certain level before they’d start having kids.
She was a banker at the time, so she agreed and went on with the plan.
But after their 3 years agreement, she reminded her husband that it was time for them to have kids, but he wasn’t so happy about it. Instead he asked that they should wait for an additional one year. At this point she wasn’t pleased to hear it because she didn’t want to go through with the pills and family planning she’s been on. But she decided to be a patient and an understanding wife, so she agreed again.
By now her in-laws and her own family had already started asking questions which her husband made it clear to them that they weren’t ready yet.
After the one additional year had passed, her husband was still adamant about them having children.
Well, she kept on persuading him for months until she stopped using the after pills and also stopped the family planning without her husband’s knowledge. But after a month of trying, she still wasn’t pregnant.
She had to go see a gynecologist who told her nothing was wrong with her, and that she was okay to make babies.
This led to her being distressed as many months passed and nothing happened.
One night, she decided to muster up courage to tell her husband that she had been out of the family planning for months without his knowledge because she really wanted kids and that was when all hell was let loose.
According to her, she said she had never seen that part of her husband in their almost 5 years of marriage.
That was the first time he beat her up that she had to run from the house to the gate.
She was scared to death but didn’t call any member of their family. She decided to wait outside till he cool of. But after a while, she got up to go inside and discovered that he locked her outside. After crying and knocking for hours, he still didn’t open the door.
She had to sleep outside that day, and to her surprise, their gateman had came to meet her with some pain killer, and wrappers to cover herself. He stayed out with her all through the night till the next morning without asking her one question. And that was how her and him became friends.
Because unlike what people regularly think of gatemen, this one was different. He was a young and fine man who was a graduate of civil engineering but couldn’t get a better job due to the situation of the country. And by the way, her husband was also paying him a good amount of money because of how wealthy he was.
By the next morning, she was able to go into the house because her husband came out and headed to work without saying a word to her.
That was where she became suspicious of her husband.
And she was determined to find out what it was.
She said after that incident, he stopped sleeping in the same bed with her not to talk of touching her. When she couldn’t bare it anymore, she had to tell her family what was going on.
She also told his family who decided to call for a meeting.
After the meeting he agreed to make amends but immediately everyone left, the matter worsened.
She said “That night, he beat me up again for calling our family in on what was going on.
He threatened to end our marriage if I repeated that and threw me outside the house again.
This time, I had to pass the night in the gateman’s quarters. And we both talked for long hours about life and many things.
The circle continued as my husband forced me into living like a flatmate with him instead of a wife.
Loneliness made me become very close to my gateman. And he was really a gentleman as he never stepped out of line or anything.
But I could see that it was just a matter of time before my marriage will completely crumble since my husband became a total stranger to me.
And just when I thought it was already messy, one day a woman came to the house with two children claiming they were for my husband, and she was actually legally married to him. Even though his family knew nothing about it.
She narrated how he left her in another state with the promise of coming back but never did for years.
So she’s been searching for him all these while and she finally got informations about his whereabouts.
He got home that day and met us all with shock written all over him, and that was when my fear was confirmed.
And to add to it all, his first wife said he had a vasectomy after their second child was born.
That explained why I couldn’t get pregnant after all my trials.
The shock was too much for me to handle, the pain was more that I could bare so I had to pack up and leave the house to my parents place.
After a week of interactions between our families, I decided to call it quit.
So I divorced him.
And as beautiful as it could get, my gateman also stopped working there as he got a better offer to work with an engineering firm.
He liked me and I already like him too because he really understood me and was there during my trying times with my ex-husband.
He kept in touch and soon we were hanging out a lot together.
I can gladly say I don’t regret meeting him, and he really prooved to be a gentleman as he never tried to take advantage of me all the while.
We got married One year after I divorced my husband.
So irrespective of the pains I went through in my first marriage, It was a happy ending for me”.
So that is the story of how Roseline got married to her gateman after divorcing her husband.
Having a healthy looking skin is a priceless thing to possess for everyone be you a male, or a female.
And scientifically it is required of us to clean our pores so that those dead cells can be removed and a more beautiful skin can be reborn.
Although so many people think that a lot of money has to be spent on actually actualizing that, well it’s not totally true.
Because with the “do it yourself” hacks, that’s the DIY hacks, you can spend just a little money in getting the right ingredients you need to put together what you need for a healthy and beautiful skin instead of giving out a huge sum to purchase one.
So here, I’ll be showing you how to make your own glow scrub from this simple ingredients.
INGREDIENTS
- Sea salt (for a less sensitive skin) or Sugar(for sensitive skins)
1 cup is okay.
- Essential oil like (almond oil, olive oil, or any essential oil of your choice).
12 drops or enough to saturate your salt or sugar quantity.
- Vitamin E
2 to 4 drops.
- Any scent supplement of your choice (which is very optional).
Just enough drops to your taste.
METHOD
Note that if you have a very soft and sensitive skin, then you might just have to stick to using sugar instead of the sea salt. And if not, use the sea salt.
- Pour your salt or sugar into a clean bowl.
- Add the drops of your essential oil and start mixing.
- Add your vitamin E and mix
- Add your scent supplement and mix
By now it will be in a moist form.
Fill it into an airtight container and keep ready for use.
HOW IT’S USED.
Now before use, make sure to soak or moist your whole body with water, then get the amount of scrub you need into your palm and start scrubbing all over your body. Keep scrubbing till the particles are dissolved and you feel a smoother skin.
Now you can rinse it off and use your soap to finish bathing.
Do this 3 times a week as it is expected to exfoliate atleast thrice a week.
So try this and give your skin a more radiating look at a more affordable and easy way.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s very likely you want to know if he or she is the one.
“The one” here literally means the one you want to settle down with because there might be more than one person who you can like, or who you like, But there has to be just one person for you to settle down with.
So here are some signs to tell you if he or she is that one person for you.
1. Your dreams and goals are in synch:
Okay, your goals and values together might not be 100 percent exactly in sync, but you both share a very good considerable amount of goals together.
It could be your attributes, your ambitions, your personality, and so much more. But you just discover that you and the one are mostly sharing your goals and dreams together.
2. You feel safe and original around them:
When you’re with “the one” they make you feel so safe and original around them as you won’t have to hide your weaknesses when they are there.
You won’t have to be scared of saying or doing things ordinarily for the fear of them criticizing you.
There is just a balance of them letting you be yourself and at the same time helping you be a better version of yourself.
3. Their Imperfections are not enough reasons for you to leave them:
When you’re dating the one persay, you just have that love that compels you to want to see and bring out the best in them.
So their Imperfections are never a deal breaker for you. It could be how they look or behave, but instead of that scaring you away, it pulls you closer to them to help them be better. Same goes for them seeing you the same way.
4. They are always willing to work on the relationship:
Being in a relationship requires more than love. It requires understanding and the willingness to work together even in times of conflict. So when you’re dating the one, it just feels right that you both are always committed to making the relationship work especially in bad times. So that commitment towards it, shows you that you’re with the one unlike situations where some persons easily quit the relationship when things go rough.
5. You’ve faced challenges together and your relationship is still standing strong:
This is one very valuable point as it shows your deep level of love, understanding, and commitment towards each other whether emotionally, financially, physically and otherwise. If you both have faced some challenges together, and you always find a way to overcome it and still stick together, it means you are with “The one” no doubt.
6. You’re always featured in their future:
When you’re with the one, you just notice they are always including you in their plans and everything that’s very important to their lives. This shows how important they see and take you, and also how they really want you to be a part of them. The same goes for you. You just see yourself including them in your plans and future.
7. They talk about you and show you off:
Once you’re with the one, you’ll notice how well they show you off to their family and friends. They don’t keep you a secret as they’ll always want the people close to them to know about you. And they’ll often brag about you. Same goes for how you feel and act towards that one person you really desire.
8. You just feel it deep within:
When you’re with that one person, your guts just tells you so. Deep within everything about them just sits right with you and you feel it that he or she is the one. And truthfully, your instincts rarely mislead you. So you just trust it.
These primary signs tell you that you are with “the one”.
So I hope this article was helpful.
Do enjoy a great relationship life with that one person and thanks for reading.
A man who goes by the name “John” (real name withheld), has brought himself out to the media to disclose how he got married to his father’s wife.
According to him, he said it all started some years ago when he returned from the city to visit home. His dad who was married to three wives already at that time, was planning to still take in a Fourth wife.
He said he came from a polygamous family in the southern part of Nigeria as his mother is the second wife owing to the fact that his dad is a Chief.
So the life of polygamy wasn’t something rare or abnormal to his people. But to him, he was never cool with it.
In his own words, read his story.
“Coming from a polygamous family was never something to be proud of for me. Infact as a child, I detested my father so much for marrying my mother as a second wife. My whole family as at that time knew how angry being in the family made me feel. But nothing changed.
When I was 18, now my dad was already in his late 50s, the news of him wanting to take in a 3rd wife started spreading. I remember walking to my father angrily and threatening him (lolzz), well nothing changed. It didn’t stop him. He finally took in a very young lady in her 20s.
I was badly hurt with that new addition that I had to leave home. I traveled out to another state entirely to stay with my mum’s family.
I didn’t go home for years because I really wanted nothing to do with my dad and his polygamist personality.
10 years later, my step mum who was my dad’s first wife died so I had to come in for the burial.
Just after a week she was buried, my dad and his people decided it was time to marry another wife, that’s the fourth one now.
I went straight into the meeting of my dad and his elders and clearly gave a warning that my dad shouldn’t think of it because I will not sit still and watch that happen.
Well, I guess they thought I was joking until i did what I did.
Three days after their meeting, a very beautiful and young girl in her mid 20s was brought home to be my father’s wife.
At first, all I wanted to do was cause trouble by chasing her back and upsetting my father and his kinsmen. But when I saw how beautiful, calm and humble the lady was, I had to think of another strategy.
Now before you think I just dived in straight to take her from my father, noooo there was more to that.
By tradition, she was supposed to move into my father’s chambers one month after my step mum’s burial. But she has to be in the household before then to learn certain things from the other wives. So I had to use within that period to plan something different.
I started by confronting her the next day after she came. I got her into an interrogative discussion, and yes I was so rude to her. But after asking her so many questions as to why she would want to succumb to marrying someone old enough to be her dad, I got to find out that she was a very brilliant person with great dreams who was only trying to take care of her family and do their wish by marrying my dad because her family wouldn’t have it another way.
From that day, we got into more conversations, and I started seeing more to her than just a naive girl trying to obey her family.
Well, the truth is, when you keep getting closer to people or knowing them more, there’s every tendency to start liking them. And that was what happened.
I started liking her, well, even though nobody in the family noticed at the time, but I started hanging out with her and we really started going deep with our friendship.
And finally, the both of us fell in love within three weeks she came into our household.
I had to confide in my mum about the recent development, but she wouldn’t hear of it. But that didn’t stop me anyway.
I told myself, if I waited one more week, my beautiful found love will be married to my dad, and no one will back me to stop it.
So I did just one thing, some days to their marriage, after speaking to her with much assurance of a better life with me, The both of us eloped.
I already had money to start a new life, so it was all a little easy.
I dropped a letter behind for my mum and the family, changed my phone number, infact I went on ghost mode after running away with my father’s to be wife.
We started of in another state, we started of a business together, I pushed her to school and we really built ourselves for 5 years. Even though we stayed far and away from both our families as that was the sacrifice we had to pay, but in the end, it was worth it.
Message got to me in that 5th year that my dad was So sick and needed to see me as he might not make it.
I was scared but also desperate to fix things now by seeing him.
I went home finally, and to my surprise, instead of the hostile welcome I was expecting to meet, the whole family welcomed me.
My dad and I spoke about everything that had happened, I apologized and he said he was okay as long as I loved her. He told me how being a polygamist wasn’t his personality but he was not too bold to fight against tradition like I could.
Before my dad passed, I brought her home immediately and both her family and mine united together to get us married properly.
Today, we are doing incredibly okay with our lives and our kids.
And that was the end of forceful polygamy struggle in my family. It is now a matter of choice and not a force for who doesn’t want it.
So, this is the story of how I ended up marrying my father’s wife (almost to be wife anyway).
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